Welcome, Dear New Friend,
I’m Dana. I wear a lot of hats in life, but the one I get the most intense response to is when I tell people that I’m a therapist. I do therapy things. I work in mental health. I lead with this as a description of myself mostly because I feel like it gives me the most credibility. I do something meaningful that required education and THOUSANDS of training hours and people generally either think that’s cool or are afraid that I’m analyzing them. This doesn’t make me a more qualified human, but it gives me a different perspective.
Sometimes being a therapist is like a superpower and sometimes it really interferes with my desire to blindly rage. I prefer vulnerability over curated perfection. New friends, I am not perfect. Let me say that again for those of you in the back – I’m not perfect. I’m bored by the idea of perfection and with pretending that life is supposed to look a certain way. My reality shines infinitely more fiercely than anything I can dream up as a content creator.
I’ve got a lot to say about some things, and I’m excited that I finally decided to do this. I mostly keep my thoughts to myself because I don’t like being told my business or subject myself to a forum in which I can be criticized in any way. I mean, who in their right mind wants to be bullied on the internet? I’m in awe of the people who are able to manage that aspect of their lives and really wish that we could do better as a community of people.
Recently, I had my very first Instagram troll, and it wasn’t as bad as I thought – but it was only one out of many potential jerks trying to tell me that I’m wrong. I’ve been resistant to putting it all out there because I don’t want to be told that I’m wrong or to have my mistakes pointed out because someone needed to make themselves feel better. I think I have a lot of valuable things to share and it’s time that I do that.
Life is already so messy and complicated, and while I haven’t figured it all out yet, I have life experiences and a career that make me somewhat of an “expert” on life. I mean, as much as anyone can be an expert on life. I’ve felt like I’m on top of the world and I’ve felt like a crumb. I’ve felt like I was kicking ass and taking names at this life thing and then I’ve not wanted to get up out of bed for days.
When I was a teenager, and grown-ups would ask me what I wanted to be when I grew up, in my brain, I would always say “Happy.” I feel like the topic of happiness deserves its own separate post, but I also think that gives you some insight into who and what you’re dealing with here. It’s always important to know what you’re getting yourself into.
I don’t really want to talk exclusively about therapy and mental health things here, but since it’s a part of me, there is no way to escape it. This is more about life and what we’re all doing to just flourish in it. I, for one, am sick and tired of complaining about nothing and continuing to allow myself to live in a negative headspace. There is this whole beautiful, amazing, sunshiny world out there and I am determined to thrive in it.
I don’t know more than anyone, and I’m never the smartest in the room. I know different things than you and you know different things than me. I love to hear from people with different perspectives.
I’ve spent a good number of years walking this Earth in search of SOMETHING bigger than me. For years, I’ve had this feeling in my chest that feels like a cross between fire and anticipation. I can’t ever seem to find what it is that I’m looking for, but here I am, ready to search and maybe even just create the damn thing myself.
Full disclaimer, beautiful people – everything that I say is my opinion, personal belief, or experience. Absolutely nothing here should be used as a substitution for obtaining mental health services. I am always happy to provide resources on where help can be found.