Today is my birthday!!! It is my New Year. It’s when I sit and reflect on the year behind me and focus on my goals, intentions, and plans for the coming year. Today, I want to have pancakes, watch my favorite movies, and work on my vision board. In honor of my birthday, let’s talk about what it means to be yourself and how to get comfortable in your skin.
I have a tough time taking criticism. I think this is in part because I’m sensitive and partly because I have yet to meet someone who can provide useful feedback in a productive way. It’s because of this that I’ve flown under the radar for so long. If I wasn’t calling attention to myself, then no one can get to me.
My personal social media pages are pretty sparse, and no one I know follows my professional Instagram. As a matter of fact, when my IG started to grow, I got a little overwhelmed, and I actively avoided it, scared of the possibilities.
It took me a long time to get comfortable with taking up space in this world. I needed to be satisfied with who I am, what I believed, what I stood for, in my skills and my knowledge. I am never going to be the smartest or best, but no one has the heart and soul that I do. My level of empathy runs deep, and I go above and beyond for my community.
I’m happy with where I am and so grateful beyond words for the life that I have. I’m primarily focused on the next 6 -12 months as I am getting married, starting this blogging adventure, and continuing to build my therapy practice. I’ve never been one to sit still for very long, but I am entering this season of life where I crave routine and stability.
Getting comfortable with who you are, takes time and a lot of work. No listicle is going to give you all of the answers but here are a few things to try –
- Stop seeking validation from others. Stop with the thirst traps on Insta and attention-seeking Facebook posts. The amount of likes and followers that you have does not measure your worth as a person. Practice self-awareness, self-acceptance, and self-love.
- Work on your shit. You’ve been dealing with your issues for way too long, and it’s time to move forward. Digging up all of your dirt is really hard and a lot of work but, I promise, it is better than dragging your unresolved emotional baggage all over town.
- Stop worrying about what people think about you. What people think about you is none of your business. I know that this one is tough, but think about it this way – what a person thinks about you is more about them than you. It reflects their experiences and interactions with you and everyone that came before you. For most of the people you come across, they have minimal information about you, so their opinion is useless anyway.
- Practice gratitude. I already have a whole post about gratitude so I won’t harp on this point at all.
I am more comfortable and confident than I’ve ever been. I worry less about what people think about me and worry more about how I can make sure you don’t care about what anyone thinks of you. I no longer have a desire to hide behind others. I want my voice to be heard. I have so much to say. I’m so glad that you found me and look forward to forming this little community that is developing!!